Responsible Porn Usage
Dec. 3rd, 2024 06:48 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
disappointed_lesbianThe responsibility is both to oneself and to others, particularly to the people acting in porn.
1. The ideal porn usage is none or stuff you create yourself (which could still end up being problematic if you're messed up in the head). The issues discussed in the less-ideal scenarios below should explain why none is ideal.
2. The next best porn usage is high-quality written material that you pay for, professionally written erotica. It will be properly labeled, so you'll know for sure what you are going to consume (and will therefore be less likely to end up traumatized by warped shit you weren't expecting). If you do come across something unsavory, the unsavoriness being expressed in words rather than sounds and/or images should soften the blow. There are no actors or actresses, so no need to worry about anyone being abused, assaulted, or financially taken advantage of to produce the material.
3. Drawn/animated/I guess sculpted? porn because there are no real people in sexual situations involved. As with erotica, paid is probably better in terms of knowing what you are getting. Also, free sexual material produced by and with people you know, so that you can be reasonably sure that no one was assaulted or coerced. Meaning your friend and her partner(s) BOTH/ALL willingly and knowingly give you their home sex tape, not that your friend is a professional porn producer giving or selling you some of her work.
4. Free solo amateur porn.
If no one is being paid, you aren't participating in prostitution (porn is typically just videorecorded prostitution—all sex engaged for remuneration is prostitution.) Whoever is in the video is more likely to have produced that video out of genuine desire rather than economic desperation. If the material is solo, it's less likely that anyone involved in the production was sexually assaulted or coerced. The person in the video has control over what happens in the video and when/where the material is distributed (up until it's released onto the Internet, anyhow). What you see is most likely consentual. Of course, the person in the video could be acting out sexual trauma or could have been coerced by someone off-camera.
This stuff, however, is typically hosted on sites that have other kinds of porn, of which you'll likely see screenshots at least. Even that can be disturbing. Sometimes sites link to other sites and image banners from the crazier sites pop up while you're viewing the saner site. Surfing with Javascript or at least pop-ups disabled is best.
That's it. No other form of paid porn is acceptable because you'd be supporting prostitution, which is unacceptable because...feminism 101. Basically, when sex exists as a commodity, people are more likely to be sexually abused. The mere idea of sex as a commodity helps legitimize sexual abuse. You don't want to watch people have sex they otherwise wouldn't have just because they need a paycheck. This is sexual exploitation whether the actors and actresses agree to it or not. Sometimes people agree to stuff (or pursue a whole career) because they are naive, desperate, and/or mentally warped by abuse. The societal normalization of having unwanted sex for money (onscreen or not) is part of the abuse; it's psychological abuse.
No other form of free porn is acceptable because you don't know what's consentual and what isn't. Imagine unwittingly watching a trafficking victim who's been coerced to act in porn.
The free porn that exists in the wild all over the Internet is particularly dangerous for oneself because it tends to be mislabeled. You might think you are going to watch simple vanilla sex and end up seeing something disturbing. A friend of mine once downloaded what he thought was (adult) gay porn only to watch a hidden-camera-in-locker-room kiddie porn video.
1. The ideal porn usage is none or stuff you create yourself (which could still end up being problematic if you're messed up in the head). The issues discussed in the less-ideal scenarios below should explain why none is ideal.
2. The next best porn usage is high-quality written material that you pay for, professionally written erotica. It will be properly labeled, so you'll know for sure what you are going to consume (and will therefore be less likely to end up traumatized by warped shit you weren't expecting). If you do come across something unsavory, the unsavoriness being expressed in words rather than sounds and/or images should soften the blow. There are no actors or actresses, so no need to worry about anyone being abused, assaulted, or financially taken advantage of to produce the material.
3. Drawn/animated/I guess sculpted? porn because there are no real people in sexual situations involved. As with erotica, paid is probably better in terms of knowing what you are getting. Also, free sexual material produced by and with people you know, so that you can be reasonably sure that no one was assaulted or coerced. Meaning your friend and her partner(s) BOTH/ALL willingly and knowingly give you their home sex tape, not that your friend is a professional porn producer giving or selling you some of her work.
4. Free solo amateur porn.
If no one is being paid, you aren't participating in prostitution (porn is typically just videorecorded prostitution—all sex engaged for remuneration is prostitution.) Whoever is in the video is more likely to have produced that video out of genuine desire rather than economic desperation. If the material is solo, it's less likely that anyone involved in the production was sexually assaulted or coerced. The person in the video has control over what happens in the video and when/where the material is distributed (up until it's released onto the Internet, anyhow). What you see is most likely consentual. Of course, the person in the video could be acting out sexual trauma or could have been coerced by someone off-camera.
This stuff, however, is typically hosted on sites that have other kinds of porn, of which you'll likely see screenshots at least. Even that can be disturbing. Sometimes sites link to other sites and image banners from the crazier sites pop up while you're viewing the saner site. Surfing with Javascript or at least pop-ups disabled is best.
That's it. No other form of paid porn is acceptable because you'd be supporting prostitution, which is unacceptable because...feminism 101. Basically, when sex exists as a commodity, people are more likely to be sexually abused. The mere idea of sex as a commodity helps legitimize sexual abuse. You don't want to watch people have sex they otherwise wouldn't have just because they need a paycheck. This is sexual exploitation whether the actors and actresses agree to it or not. Sometimes people agree to stuff (or pursue a whole career) because they are naive, desperate, and/or mentally warped by abuse. The societal normalization of having unwanted sex for money (onscreen or not) is part of the abuse; it's psychological abuse.
No other form of free porn is acceptable because you don't know what's consentual and what isn't. Imagine unwittingly watching a trafficking victim who's been coerced to act in porn.
The free porn that exists in the wild all over the Internet is particularly dangerous for oneself because it tends to be mislabeled. You might think you are going to watch simple vanilla sex and end up seeing something disturbing. A friend of mine once downloaded what he thought was (adult) gay porn only to watch a hidden-camera-in-locker-room kiddie porn video.
